Admiring the Problem

I love how this expression captures the way so many of us operate! When faced with a challenging situation that asks more than we think or know we can do, we lean away to create space (distance?) for ourselves. Instead of being focused on what we can do, we admire the problem. We talk about the problem, analyze every angle of the problem, cultivate a well-reasoned and logical opinion on the problem, and become an expert in the problem.

But…we don’t actually do anything. We talk, offer suggestions, talk some more, raise questions and concerns, keep talking…at this point, we know the problem so intimately that we know its blood type and could post a convincing online dating profile, but have no real idea what steps we need to take to solve it (cue more talking…about what? oh, wait…the problem).

Why do we prefer to admire problems rather than solve them? I think we aren’t comfortable putting ourselves out there to solve problems because we risk being exposed, vulnerable, and susceptible to criticism and analysis by others who have chosen the path of admiration over action. It’s fucking hard to stand up and say to a bunch of admiring-the-problemers, This is the next step and I’m taking it.

If you are a person of action, you know that by taking a step forward, you’ll draw immediate criticism. Because how dare you stop admiring the problem? That’s what we do…