Don’t Pat Me on the Head


Don’t pat me on the head with your fake hero talk.

Don’t pat me on the head with words you think I want to hear because it’s easier or more convenient for you to scratch the surface rather than dive deep.

Don’t pat me on the head so I will comply with your standards of who and what I am to be rather than take the time to understand and celebrate who I actually am.

Don’t pat me on the head and pretend to celebrate my ambition and accomplishments while attempting to minimize me so I’m not “too much” for you.

In fact, now that we’re talking, don’t ever fucking pat me on the head. I don’t want to mess up my hair. And I don’t think you want me to mess you up, either.



Kristina Ralston

Change strategist and leadership coach. Let’s change the conversation around change, together. Find out how at: