Leave Because You’re Done

It’s OK to leave things because you’re just done with them. It doesn’t have to mean you leave for something bigger and better. What if you do “smaller” things better and that was the thing?

Leaving something — a relationship, a job, a faded opportunity — for many of us equates to failure. And because we don’t like to fail, when faced with the prospect of leaving, we double down, pour more time and energy into said relationship, job, or opportunity in a wild attempt to make it work, somehow, so we don’t have to admit failure and can then sing the praises of our “turnaround” success to anyone who will listen. Which works some of the time. The way to that type of success, though, is often littered with a depleted mind, body, and spirit, and a sense that it wasn’t really worth it, more about our ego and what we believe we should do, rather than anything real or lasting.

To account for the pain and discomfort of leaving, we try our damnedest to put something in place before we go that replaces the thing we’re leaving in a bigger and better way. We want to prove to ourselves that we didn’t fail and that we are still successful, still making progress, and that the thing we’re leaving wasn’t that big of a deal to begin with. See: look at the big job I landed! or the amazing new partner I’m with! or the beautiful house I bought! And, to top it all off, check out how sweet my ass…